Well its the Chinese New year where I am right now. For those who have no idea what this festive season is,  let me enlighten you with some Chinese awesomeness.

In ancient China, the Chinese used a lunar calendar instead of the one we are using right now. So the Chinese new year falls on a different date from the new year we know now. So the tradition is where we go back to our villages and celebrate this season with our loved ones. Best part of it is buffet of awesome food and booze might just be included.

This season definitely brings the joy of the season into our lives. However, one thing that really ticks the crap out of me is when relatives starts bragging about how awesome they are and start comparing you to their kids who is making tons of money in some part of the world and therefore couldn’t make it back for the festive season.

Honestly, I don’t even know if your kid exist.

I apologize for not being able to find one in English subtitles. For those who were clueless, it is basically about bunch of old ladies bragging about their children. One women could not find anything to brag about her son. However the ones who had “successful” children left them at the old folks home while the lady who could not brag about her son got picked by him for the festive seasons.

Well they need to stop comparing and let you be you for goodness sake.So for all you annoying relatives this post is dedicated to you.  Enjoy.

It’s funny that humans are the only species that love comparing ourselves to one another. We don’t see monkeys asking one another who is the furriest or rhinos comparing who has the longest horns.

Yet we humans walk around comparing who has the best hair do or outfit( then get upset if we don’t).

Another characteristic that humans have is the need to be like others. Notice I used the word NEED, not WANT. Well technically it is a want, but after the constant self- brain washing, the want becomes a need. Leave that need unfulfilled we feel like that life is not worth living any more.

When they try to mirror those we idolise.This is especially true when people have celebrity role models. The guys want a body like Chris Evans from Captain America and the girls want to look like Gemma Arteton.

It is good to visualize goals, but the constant fixation on all these things makes us obsessive. We try to go through the life they go through. We try to eat as little as a baby mouse hoping to lose those fat and look hot(wrong approach).

Brad Pitt v.s Justin Bieber

We go around living life like the replica of someone else. We try behaving like them and if Brad Pitt doesn’t eat broccoli we stop eating broccoli because we want to be like Brad Pitt. Overtime we lose the essence of who we are, and when people say : “ Wow, you are acting more like Brad Pitt each day”, our heart leaps with joy.

Guess what? We might try to behave like Brad Pitt but we can never be him. We will be stuck in the middle of who we once were and the embodiment of what we think Brad Pitt is. We then lose our personality and characteristics that people love us for.

The plain truth is that we will never end up exactly like others. And we should stop trying. There is a reason why the world only has one Brad Pitt and one Justin Bieber. That is because the world only needs one Brad Pitt and Justin Bieber. (Maybe it only needs Pitt.)

Picture a world with 1000 thousand people trying to be just like Justin Bieber and all of them stumble unto a magic lamp and the genie granted them their wish.

In an instant there are now 1000 Justin Biebers filling the streets and all of them are singing: “ Baby, Baby, Baby, I wish you could always be mine.” Not a pretty sight huh? Even his biggest fan would agree.

We need to let go of the mindset that we are not good enough therefore we must be like others. Since they are famous and liked by others, I will get exactly what they get when I turn out like them.Thinking so  we will set ourselves up for some MAJOR disappointment.

The artist

We can never be like others. That is because we all start with different starting materials. With different unique starting material, the end product will always be different.

An artist who uses multimedia resources will might create a striking 3D image. However an artist who is only given traditional tools and paint will not be able to do so. That does not mean a beautiful picture cannot be painted.

The Mona Lisa was done without any form of advanced resources yet its beauty last till this day.

That is our gift to the world; our uniqueness makes the world a much diverse and better place to be in. It would be crazily mundane, boring and even scary if everyone behaved exactly the same.

We were all created different for a reason; we possess something that no one else has. That is the something we should be focusing on— harnessing our unique talent, abilities and personality to become the greatest individual we can be.

Stop trying to be like others and forget all the expectations that others have imposed upon you.

It doesn’t matter if you are starting with advanced multimedia resources or traditional tools and paints. Each of us can paint our own beautiful picture. We can write go on our own journey without following the footstep of others.

We can all be great in our own unique ways. Don’t try being Pitt or Bieber, be the artist. 

Be you. Make a difference by being different. Don’t let the world change you but go and change the world.  <—- Click this to tweet this !

 

Do you find any troubles of staying true and being you? What difficulties do you face? Leave them in the comments below.

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  michelle ling
  

  this is the best post you’ve wrote so far. too well said!

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  kedric93
  

  Thank you:) glad you like it

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  zanne
  

  my dad once asked me a question, “do you think brad pitt is better than you? do you think angelina jolie is better than you?”. i said yes. wrong. the answer was no because there is only one you in the world and you’re better than everybody.

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  kedric93
  

  one word to describe your dad. Awesome.

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